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We have developed a new Islamic Advice site that allows comments from readers and easier submission of questions. Please see our new Ask Bilqis site at: http://www.IslamicAnswers.com/ Please note that not all previous questions have been migrated to the new site, so if you want to read the older questions and answers, this page is the place to do it. This column provides common-sense marriage and family advice. Do you have a problem concerning marriage, family relationships, or childraising? Ask Bilqis! Please note: This column is curently being written by Wael Abdelgawad but will remain known as the "Ask Bilqis" column. Wael is not a scholar and does not issue fatwas. He answers questions with common sense, an open mind and an Islamic perspective. Also bear in mind that he is only one person and cannot answer every question. We encourage you to also seek other sources of assistance, such as your local Imam, visiting scholars, or wise individuals from your community. To send your own question, email it to:

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• July 2006
  My Sikh family is against Islam and will never approve my marriage to a Muslim girl.

• April 1, 2006:
  I am a 58 year old woman who has received a proposal from a 40 year old man. Should I marry him?

• September 1, 2004:
  I am a Christian woman marrying a Muslim man but I have no idea how to plan an Islamic wedding ceremony. Please help!

• February 1, 2004:
  I live with my husband and his brother so I have to wear my hijab all the time. What can I do?

• September 1, 2003:
  My father is viewing pornography on the internet and I don't know what to do about it.

• July 11, 2003:
  My husband's brother won't move out of our house! (Answer written by Wael Abdelgawad)

• June 1, 2003:
  I am a convert and I want to marry a Muslim woman but I still have doubts about Islam. (Answer written by Wael Abdelgawad)

• April 18, 2003:
  I am a 19 year old woman and my life is out of control! I want to become a good Muslim but I don't know how. (Answer written by Wael Abdelgawad)

• November 1, 2002:
  Why do you advise women who are beaten to seek support from the Muslim community? Why not just call 911?

• August 26, 2002:
  I was the temporary wife of a Muslim man and now he claims my child is not his.

• June 24, 2002:
  Why is that a if a man divorces his wife, she has to marry someone else before she can remarry her husband?

• March 11, 2002:
  I'm a new Muslim and the man I love does haram things.

• December 17, 2001:
  I need a few tips on how to approach a Muslimah for marriage.

• December 10, 2001:
  My fiance's mother hates Moroccan women and won't let me marry him.

• November 5, 2001:
  My husband is an alchoholic and it has ruined our sex life.

• October 22, 2001:
  Should I marry a poor, religious man?

• September 3, 2001:
  I am fifteen year old girl and I am tempted to do haraam things.

• June 25, 2001:
  My husband refuses to work and I'm struggling to pay the bills!

• June 11, 2001:
  I have been married twelve years and I do not love my wife anymore.

• May 21, 2001:
  I can't tolerate my fiance's little boy!

• April 30, 2001:
  I don't want to marry a woman in her thirties because of the risk of birth defects.

• April 9, 2001:
  His family is rejecting me because my parents are Christians.

• February 26, 2001:
  I always lose my temper with my husband and my anger is making our lives miserable! How can I change?

• January 22, 2001:
  If a man has two wives, can he have them both in the bed at the same time?

• December 25, 2000:
  A man is proposing to me to be his second wife and I really like him but I think he is hiding it from his first wife.

• December 11, 2000:
  I am a divorced sister with three sons and it's hard to find a husband.

• November 27, 2000:
  I can't find a good Muslim man to marry, can I marry a non-Muslim man?

• November 6, 2000:
  I've been developing a "relationship" with a man through the internet. Is that haram?

• October 23, 2000:
  My husband beats me with belt, shoes and fists. What are my rights?

• October 9, 2000:
  My husband is always complaining and threatening to divorce me.

• September 25, 2000:
  I have met my soulmate but my elderly mother wants me to remain single and take care of her.

• September 11, 2000:
  My sister's husband pronounced the divorce three times out of anger. Are they still married?

• September 4, 2000:
  I am getting married soon and need to know how much the Mahr (marriage-gift) should be.

• August 28, 2000:
  I just found out the man I am with is married to another woman.

• July 31, 2000:
  I am a fifteen year old Muslim girl and I am in love with a boy at school.

• June 26, 2000:
  I am falling in love with a married man.

• June12, 2000:
  Can we just write on a piece of paper that we agree to marry, then take it to a sheikh for confirmation?

• May 29, 2000:
  Can I reject a proposal only because of his physical appearance?

• May 16, 2000:
  My husband won't allow me to wear a face veil. Who's right?

• May 1, 2000:
  Bilqis tells us about her journey to Islam.

• April 10, 2000:
  I'm 15, she's 16 and we are in love. We want to get married but her parents will never approve.

• March 27, 2000:
  I have always rejected marriage proposals because I haven't found the right match, but sexual desire is driving me crazy.

• March 13, 2000:
  I want to go to college but my mother thinks it's a waste of time for women.

• February 28, 2000:
  Are henna parties bid'ah?

• February 14, 2000:
  Do I have to wash my hair to be tahir (pure) every time I make love? Or can I just wash my body?

• February 7, 2000:
  I am stuck with an interest-bearing loan and I owe my ex-husband thousands of dollars.

• January 31, 2000:
  I am in love with a man but I don't know if he feels the same way. How can I find out how he feels?

• Monday, December 20, 1999:
  I am a Christian man in love with a Muslim woman. I don't understand why Islam won't let me marry her.

• Monday, December 13, 1999:
  I am a teenaged Muslim girl in love with a Hindu boy and am thinking of converting to Hinduism for him.

• Monday, December 6, 1999:
  I've had a child with a married man and now he will not acknowledge the child or assist me financially.

• Monday, November 22, 1999:
  He said he wanted to marry me but then he went away to study Islam and seems to have forgotten me.

• Monday, November 15, 1999:
  I know that anal sex is forbidden in Islam, but my husband wants it.

• Monday, November 1, 1999:
  I recently committed a lesbian act with another young woman and I wish to know if this is definitely haram.

• Monday, October 11, 1999:
  I am getting married to a Muslim woman but her ex-husband is saying she is not properly divorced. How can we prove that she is divorced?

• Monday, September 13, 1999:
  What is really wrong with watching TV or listening to music, as some Muslims say?

• Monday, September 6, 1999:
  My wife has no interest in sex, and I am so frustrated that I find myself thinking about about adultery.

• Monday, August 30, 1999:
  I feel the need to get married, but I have a debt that must be paid and I am worried that my future husband may not let me work to pay the debt.

• Monday, August 23, 1999:
  I'm Catholic and my boyfriend is Muslim. We are planning to get married, but he won't marry in the church, even if I agree to a ceremony in the Mosque. Isn't this unfair?

• Monday, August 16, 1999:
  I am in love with my English teacher and I think about her all the time.

• Monday, August 8, 1999:
  Commentary by Bilqis: Husbands Who Do Not Work

• Monday, August 2, 1999:
  I am African-American and my husband is Arab, and he is not living up to my expectations. I am fed up and going crazy!

• Monday, July 26, 1999:

QUESTION ONE: I am in love with an older woman but my culture does not approve.

QUESTION TWO: Muslim women won't marry me because I don't want kids and I am a loose cannon.

• Monday, July 19, 1999:
  I want to leave my husband but I have no money or resources, so what can I do?

• Monday, July 12, 1999:
  I am unable to father children and I'm worried that no Muslim woman will marry me. Is it okay not to tell my prospective partner about this problem?

• Monday, June 28, 1999:
  My sister was beaten by her husband, and is now divorced. She cannot re-marry because divorce is such a stigma in Pakistan. What can she do?

• Monday, June 14, 1999:
  I brought my family here from Pakistan, and now my wife is out of control! What should I do?

• Monday, June 7, 1999:
  Why should I get married, when husbands just hold their wives back?

• Monday, May 31, 1999:
  My husband wants to marry a second women and I'm afraid. What's wrong with me?

• Monday, May 24, 1999:
  I need to marry an American for the green card, I'm desperate!

• Monday, May 17, 1999:
  Where are the Schools?

• Monday, May 10, 1999:
  We met through an internet matrimonial service, but our parents will not approve! What should we do?

• Monday, May 3, 1999:
  Where to get answers to shar'i or fiqhi (legalistic) questions about divorce and other matters.

• Monday, April 26, 1999:
  I am 42 years old, divorced for three years with two children, and very lonely. Do you have any suggestions?.

• Monday, April 19, 1999:
  Should education and occupation should be considered a big factor in choosing a partner?.

• Monday, April 12, 1999:
  What do I do if my husband leaves me and does not return?.